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GYOdating is about gay older men and younger men looking for intergenerational dates and relationships.
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2018.12.18 06:22 HeadingForTrouble_ Romance between May and December

If you like the dynamic of dating with an age difference, then this is the place to look for a partner.
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2020.10.25 00:40 InternalThinker I believe i have a troubled personality, and I'd like some outside advice.

Note: This is going to be a long one and involve a lot of somewhat intimate details, which is why i am using a throwaway.
So to start, my reason for posting here is that i feel i really need some outside opinions on how to proceed with improving myself. My therapist is an amazing guy, but whenever I've tried to bring up a topic such as this, i just never am able to articulate it properly and because of that he's unable to give me any suggestions on the topic. I'm a much better writer than a speaker, i think, and i hope maybe I'll be able to get some good advice that will help me change my outlook of myself. Sorry for this being so long.
I've been to therapists (and still have contact with one should something come up), and have taken depression medication in the past after being diagnosed with depression as a child. I used to struggle a lot more with myself than i have now, to the point where i used to have suicidal thoughts. I've not had these thoughts in a long time, and my mood has improved significantly, so i definitely think I'm okay now, or at least much better off.
Growing up, in elementary school, i vaguely remember being bullied because of my rosy cheeks (Rosacea) and overactive personality (to say the least). I was constantly trying to garner attention from other kids, often in very gross and crazy ways, because i suppose i was just too hyper and didn't know how to socialize normally (I've always had suspicion that i have ADHD, but never confirmed). I also never was able to focus in school, or get myself to study and do homework, as i would constantly get distracted and daydream instead. My abilities in math have greatly suffered from that, to the point that i can barely answer basic math question still to this day. Besides that i know there's still room for me to improve in other subjects, though i have a good grasp on them as somehow i was able to garner enough information over the years that stuck with me. Perhaps that's why I'm not doing too bad in college right now.
Anyways, i eventually switched to a online school around 7th grade. Now, I'm going to be honest (this isn't something I'm proud of) and say that i often cheated, because i never was able to focus on the classes (still) nor remember the content even if i did try to focus. In high school i started doing a lot more of my own work, but i continued to cheat still especially in math class which i struggled in due to never focusing. I'm in college now, having just started my first semester, and I'm glad to say that i have not resorted to cheating, and i am trying my hardest to avoid falling back into it. But i am very concerned with how well i will do once i start the next semester and start receiving harder courses, especially because as of now i do not have a math class that i am taking because they didn't have it available for this semester. I've bought a couple books to improve myself in the subject, but i highly struggle with actually remembering anything i learn about it. (perhaps someone has any tips?)
With some basic background out of the way, i suppose now i should explain the other main reason for posting this. I often find myself wishing that i could trade my personality to have the personality that i see of my peers (I know, everyone is different, and this is unrealistic, but i still find myself thinking I'm more troubled mentally than others i see... It's not exactly great on my mood). I still struggle to this day with my social life. I only have one good friend who lives far enough away that i can't see him physically much at all (though we spend a decent amount of time talking online... though as of recently i feel as if even that friendship is starting to slide, perhaps because for a while i was way too rambunctious while taking the meds), and i feel he's very much like me in regards to what troubles him. I do not have a girlfriend, though i often find myself longing to date. You're only young once, you know? I'm always afraid of wasting that previous time away.
See, to this day i still struggle with preventing myself from getting wild. I don't do disgusting things anymore, and i very much have a high regard for fellow humans, it pains me if i upset someone. But i still can't make jokes without saying something very weird or out of the blue (making a reference to a book or something so spontaneously people look at me funny thinking i must be nuts), and i often can't help but to insert jokes and constantly try to garner attention (it's almost impulsive). It's almost like I'm desperate for human connection, and while i can control it somewhat, i always slip up. And often i might inadvertently insult someone because the jokes spews out of my mouth before i even think about it. That combined with my lack of confidence, lack of experience in a social environment, and it's a combination set for disaster. I don't want to be introverted, but i often find myself crawling back into a shell because of disappointment in myself.
I really want to start opening up and communicating with people and make connections... As for starting small I think i need to build more confidence for myself, learn to smile, engage with gals and also those who i wish to be friends with more, although thanks to covid i haven't been able to start trying that (and who knows if i ever will be able to manage to garner enough confidence to put those plans into action), and i still am having trouble overcoming my impulsiveness.
I'd like to mention that even hobbies that I've always been interested in learning have been hard to keep focus on. For example programming, which I've taken a very long "break" from and just haven't done anything serious with. About the only thing I've found that has stuck with me all this years is my love for a good story, perhaps because of the escapism that a story offers.
As i mentioned, i took medication for depression starting back when i was around 16, and up until this year actually. I've gotten off of it (Prozac) because i felt as if it was only adding to my rambunctious behavior when i was around my friend (who doesn't really mind my crazy behavior, and sometimes even helps us both to get some fun out of it), and others. I also really just did not like the idea of taking a chemical that is designed to mess with my head (I don't need to be any more crazy, thank you! :D), and i told my doctor i would prefer to try more natural alternatives (He did seem receptive to it, though he told me plain and clear it was murky waters).
As for alternatives to the medication, I've started taking a natural herbal extract called St. Johns Wort, which i believe if it's not a placebo, it does seem to be working (and in the end, i guess it doesn't matter so long as i see some benefits). I've also been trying really hard to start getting onto a regular sleep schedule (i often slip up and end up getting to sleep late at around 1 or 1:30, though i suppose it's still better than what i did before). Since my childhood i had a habit of staying up very late, sometimes all the way until morning in order to read books or do programming, seeing as i never found enough time during the day. I don't know about ADHD related symptoms, but i know depression can be heavily affected by sleep. I've also been getting more sunlight and at least trying to talk to more people, though I've had no successes so far in making more long-term friends (except i suppose online, where I've made at least acquaintances, though i struggle with connecting with them ), partly because i haven't gained the confidence to go out and do new activities, and i also haven't had many chances thanks to covid.

If nothing else, i appreciate being able to get this off my chest. It's sometimes hard to make sense of my own thoughts and by writing this i feel as if I've gotten a lot of weight out of my head.
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2020.10.25 00:19 KingTyson27 [S] King's Survivor: Edge of Extinction

Since the first season, King's Survivor has brought many twists, turns, and unique styles of gameplay. Now, 14 new contestants, plus 4 returning faces will battle it out, to see whether new faces or familiar ones will be better at Survivor. Inez, Nick, SS, and Claire are about to face off against 14 new players, and each other. The new twist this season will be the Edge of Extinction: every person that's voted out gets sent there for a chance to get back into the game. This season will feature the largest jury to date, and one player will become the Sole Survivor, who will it be this time?
Kama Tribe:
Belinda "Bertha" Matthews, 43, Lunch Lady, u/AngolanDesert
Bertha has grown up being made fun of for her looks, which is something she can’t control. This has hardened her and turned her into the strong woman she is today. Now, she serves middle schoolers during lunch time. She’ll do anything to get this money.
Gideon Crane, 23, Cashier, u/ClayTAnderson
His parents disowned him when he was 16 and has spent some years in juvenile detention after somewhat being falsely accused of murder. He is really a good person until other people mislabeled him and that's what made him (somehow) bad. Underneath this dark persona, is a chivalrous guy who's determined to take on challenges.
Inez Sabrillo, 24, Millennials Vs Gen X & Game Changers, 2nd & 16th, u/swoldow
Joseph "Joe" Vorobyov, 24, Infantryman, u/Twig7665
Joe was once a respectful young man who decided to sign up for the military rather than to go to college. He served four years in the military, and was taken out of combat due to a severe injury to his leg. After his time in combat, he was never the same. Now he is an alcoholic, and shows little to no emotion most of the time, and when he is showing emotion, it's because of a PTSD flashback. He's gonna go on Survivor to prove that he can win and to spread awareness for PTSD.
Kendra Laslow, 28, Microbiologist, u/ghetra
Kendra is very bright and focused, sometimes too focused. She is very dedicated to her work as a microbiologist and can sometimes hyper-focus on this and put her personal life on the back burner. She doesn't feel the need for too much of a social life, and because of that she can sometimes be awkward. Despite this, she isn't necessarily shy and is very confident in herself. She doesn't care what others think of her, and sometimes because of this she can't get a good read on people.
Nick Nolan, 33, Nicaragua, 5th, u/SilverOwl24
Ryan Brown, 27, Software Engineer, u/asiansurvivorfan
He was adopted at birth and was raised with 5 other siblings. He is extremely grateful towards his adoptive family and wants to thank them by winning. Unfortunately, he faced a lot of racism growing up due to being raised by a white family in a very conservatively white city, but he managed to impress most of his tormentors with his intelligence. Though very smart, Ryan is pretty reserved and wants to use this as an experience to test his social skills.
Tina Greyham, 60, Bus Driver
Tori Kane, 27, Music Producer, u/TDSwaggyBoy
Tori always had a passion for music and natural talent, and by the time she turned 14 she had already known how to play on almost 9 different instruments. She always wanted to become either a singer, a member of a band or just do something in the music industry. And lo and behold, she became a music producer for some of the bigger known artist. And she's only 27! Tori's already high up in the sky! And now, she wants to take on a brand new challenge. She always manages to overcome EVERYTHING, so this should be a piece of cake to her!
Manu Tribe:
Chad Kruger, 19, College Student
Claire Watkinson, 33, Heroes Vs Healers Vs Hustlers, 4th, u/Twig7665
Genevieve "Gen" Meza, 25, Pop Singer, u/ClayTAnderson
Gen always had in herself the star quality, she's just too afraid to showcase it. Her talent blossomed back in college where she sang in an open night. Now, she's ready for her first big break into stardom by joining a reality show.
Karl Pearson, 42, Gardener, u/TDSwaggyBoy
Karl has always loved the outdoors. He's a very outdoorsy kind of guy, loving adventures of all kind. As a kid, Karl was always a bit of an oddball and an off-beat. Despite it, however, he always managed to surround himself with a good, close group of friends. Karl is an only child, and his mom sadly passed away a short while after he was born. Ever since a young age he had to work in order to help his dad with paying their bills and taking care of their house, which made him quite responsible, surprisingly.
Due to his love for adventures, Karl ended up signing up for SURVIVOR and was accepted as he was seen as an interesting character. How well will he fare?
Lynn Hayworth, 28, Cosplayer
Ryder Goulding, 24, Medical Student, u/FabColette
His parents (last season's River is one) are both involved in the medical industry and that made him realize how beautiful and important people's lives. He wants to make a difference in the healthcare of the world so he pursued a career in medicine.
Samuel "SS" Smith, 26, Worlds Apart, 10th, u/Pray_The_Gay_To_Come
Shanna Salva, 36, Stewardess, u/Thisaccountishaunted
She is an airline stewardess and comes from a long line of family members who have lived long and prosperous lives. She's only 36 but still lives and plans every day wisely because she wants as much in a life as she can. As a stewardess, she meets and talks to many people as allowed and has fun while she can with the new places. Secretly, she is growing bored and annoyed of people and wants any chance to outplay them so she can't wait to get on Survivor and win...after she continues pretending to enjoy people.
Victor Lunez, 36, Teacher, u/AngolanDesert
Victor was bullied in school for being the “fat kid”. Now that he’s grown up, he’s become a massive built man to prove those bullies wrong. Victor may look intimidating, but he’s a gentle giant who is very trusting of other people.
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Episode 1: The fourteen new contestants are gathered onto a boat and taken to Fiji. Soon, they see another, smaller boat approaching them, containing the tribe captains, revealed to be Inez, Nick, SS, and Claire. They are then told to grab as much stuff as they could off the boat. Tina is able to snag the advantage menu, which can be used to steal a reward, an extra vote, or a preventative idol. She struggles to keep it a secret from her tribe, and people grow suspicious of her. Nick and Inez, feeling like they'll be targeted if they don't stick together, form an alliance with themselves, Bertha, Kendra, and Joe. Nick also talks to Ryan, and the six take control of the tribe, leaving Tori, Gideon, and Tina on the outer. At Manu, SS and Claire attempt to do the same, they get Gen on board, but Ryder forms an alliance with the other six, believing himself to be the defeater of the veterans. Kama wins the first immunity challenge, and Claire, Gen, and SS target Lynn, due to her weakness in challenges. Ryder convinces the other five alliance members to split the votes, with Chad, Karl, and Victor voting for SS, and Ryder, Lynn, and Shanna voting for Gen, and then after the revote, they would all pile the votes onto Gen, seeing her as weaker than SS. At tribal council, Ryder's plan goes exactly as he wanted it to, as Gen, Lynn, and SS tie, and Gen going in the revote in a 5-1 vote.
Episode 2: Claire is able to form a strong bond with Ryder, and Chad has a panic attack, causing people to feel bad for him. Lynn decides to call out her own alliance for what they've done that pissed her off, and it causes her to be kicked out of the alliance. Ryder apologizes to Claire and SS, and the whole tribe can now agree on a public enemy: Lynn. Luckily for her, the Manu tribe wins immunity. At Kama, Gideon talks to Tori, and she realizes that Gideon is actually a really nice guy, despite the dark persona he puts on. Tina picks a fight with Nick, worsening her position in the tribe. Bertha decides, for no reason at all, to leave Nick and Inez's alliance. Then, an alliance with the original five plus Ryan forms because... reasons, I guess. Gideon forms a close bond with Tina, and the two of them try to flip the votes onto Inez, because she was a threat to win in their eyes. Bertha decides to vote for Tori, and the five plus Tori all vote for Tina, and Tina becomes the second person voted out in a 6-2-1 vote.
Episode 3: After a fiasco at tribal council, Gideon tries to look for the idol, but fails and makes himself an even bigger target. Kendra bonds with Ryan very strongly, and Bertha cuts ties with her alliance completely. At Manu, Claire and Ryder bond a bit more, and Karl leaves Ryder's alliance, while a new alliance of Chad, Claire, SS, and Shanna form, with intent on flipping the script on Ryder, if they are able to manage that. Manu loses immunity for the second time, and Lynn tells the whole tribe to vote out Karl for his shadiness. This does not work, and it puts her in an even deeper hole. She doesn't try to save herself, believing herself to be safe. At tribal council, she becomes the third person voted out in a 7-1 vote, and she leaves with an explosive speech and tells the other contestants to start playing the game.
Episode 4: The tribes are informed that a tribe swap will occur. The new Kama tribe consists of Bertha, Joe, SS, Shanna, and Victor. On the new Manu tribe is Chad, Claire, Inez, Ryan, and Tori, while the new Lesu tribe has Gideon, Karl, Kendra, Nick, and Ryder. At Kama, SS, despite being in the majority, looks for an idol, and finds one. He forms a close bond with Joe, and Victor has a major meltdown. At Manu, Chad has a meltdown, leaves his alliance, and threatens to quit the game if he doesn't get what he wants. At Lesu, Ryder finds the idol, and he uses it to build trust with Nick, and it works. Kama and Manu win immunity, sending Lesu to tribal council. Seeing Karl as no longer useful, Nick and Ryder plot to get rid of him, and they get Kendra and Gideon on board as well. At tribal council, Karl is blindsided 4-1.
Episode 5: As Karl arrives onto the Edge of Extinction, the four people there are given a clue to find something. Tina finds an advantage for the re-entry challenge, allowing her to practice for it. Gen finds an extra vote that she can give to any person still in the game, and she decides between Shanna, Claire, and Ryder. Back in the actual game, Shanna impresses the rest of Kama, and SS tries to keep his idol a secret, for shock factor if he decides to play it. At Lesu, nothing of interest happens, and it's a similar story on Manu beach, so when Manu loses both the reward and immunity challenges, Inez tries to blame Chad for not pulling his weight in challenges, despite being very physically fit, and the rest of the tribe has a similar mindset, so at tribal council, Chad is voted out 4-1. Back at camp, Ryan finds an idol, and does his best to keep it a secret from the rest of the tribe. The remaining contestants compete in a reward challenge, where the Manu tribe increases their losing streak and decrease their morale by losing the reward challenge. Shanna decides to flip from her alliance at Kama, turning against Victor. This causes the rest of the tribe, save SS, to want to target her. At the immunity challenge, it is revealed that only one tribe will win immunity, and that tribe is the Manu tribe. At tribal council, Shanna makes a speech, talking about how she's a strategic mastermind and all that, causing the Lesu tribe to turn on her, so SS plays his idol for her, and sends Victor to the Edge in a 2-0 vote.
Episode 6: The remaining 12 castaways are informed of the merge, but there will be a twist. the first six castaways to be voted out will compete in a challenge to return to the game. Tina decides to penalize Gen, since she had that advantage too, and Gen is narrowly beaten out by Karl, which is surprising to the remaining contestants. They merge into the reddish Vata tribe, consisting of Bertha, Claire, Gideon, Inez, Joe, Karl, Kendra, Nick, Ryan, Ryder, SS, Shanna, and Tori. Back at the Edge, Victor, humiliated by his loss, raises his flag to leave the game, causing Chad to see him as a coward. On Vata, Bertha finds the merge idol, causing there to be three idols in play once again. Inez wins the first postmerge immunity challenge, and back at camp, Claire, SS, and Shanna form a new alliance with Tori, Ryder, and Gideon, and they plan to vote out Ryan for being too much of a strategic threat, although Gideon wanted to vote out Joe for being too physically strong to keep in the game. Bertha and Nick bond, and that was exactly what Nick and Joe needed to swing the votes in their favor to take out Shanna, so at tribal council, Shanna is sent to the Edge in a 7-6 vote.
Episode 7: The final 12 compete in a reward challenge, and the group consisting of Claire, Inez, Joe, Nick, Ryan, and Tori win. Back at camp, Gideon starts to be seen as a big threat, and Bertha and SS bond strongly. Bertha also bonds with Inez when she gets back from the reward. Joe wins the second immunity challenge, solidifying his status as a strong challenge competitor. When they get back, the two main targets were Gideon and Karl. Gideon was targeted for being too strong in challenges and too isolated to really help himself, and Karl got targeted for being the Edge returnee. When tribal council occurs, a tie between Karl and Gideon occurs, much to the people who voted Gideon's shock, and Bertha flips on the revote, causing Gideon to be sent packing in a 6-4 vote.
Episode 8: Not knowing who flipped, Ryder interrogates his tribemates, and eventually figures out it was Bertha who flipped. No longer trusting her, he tries to weaken her by getting SS on board to vote out Karl if he does not win immunity. Lo and behold, SS wins immunity, denying Karl of being safe. SS talks to Tori and Claire and asks them to vote with him and Ryder, and they agree to it. Feeling bad for Karl, Ryan risks his life in the game to try and vote with him to take out Tori. Inez, Joe, and Nick, as well as Kendra and Bertha, decide to vote for Ryder after Nick saw that Ryder was trying to flip Ryan to his side. Claire and Nick also form a deal to not vote each other out until only captains remain. At tribal council, Ryder plays his idol for himself, causing Karl to return to the Edge of Extinction in a 4-2 vote.
Episode 9: Karl returns to the Edge, where the other jurors welcome him, but shame him for not going all the way. Shanna finds an advantage for the next immunity challenge and gives it to SS. Back in the actual game. Claire wins the immunity challenge, giving herself a spot in the final nine. Claire and Nick bond some more, and Ryder and Tori also bond. SS forms an alliance with Bertha, who at this point is probably the shakiest ally he could have in this game. Two factions of five form, one having the three Manus (Claire, SS, and Ryder), Tori, and Bertha, and the other having Inez, Joe, Kendra, Nick, and Ryan. At tribal council, Ryan plays his idol to avoid a rock draw, and Tori is voted out 5-0. Back at camp, Claire impresses her tribe. Nick and Bertha, realizing Kendra has just been coasting along, decide they don't want a goat in the final three, so they try targeting her to no avail, as Inez, Joe, and Ryan, along with Kendra, wanted to get Ryder out for being the biggest frontrunner to win the season at this point. Ryan wins immunity, and the Manu three target Inez, knowing how dangerous she could be as a flipper. It is not enough, and Ryder is voted out 4-3-2.
Episode 10: The top eight compete in a reward challenge, and the group consisting of Claire, Inez, Joe, and SS win, and SS tries to make a final four deal with them, which they all agree to at first, but then SS tries to make a pitch to get rid of Ryan, who was probably the most popular guy on the tribe, and they start to object. Then SS tries to get rid of Bertha, and they all think that that's a good plan. He talks to the whole tribe to get rid of Bertha, when in reality, he had no reason to get rid of Bertha, he wanted to get rid of Ryan. After Nick wins immunity, he tells Bertha to play her idol, and to vote Ryan off, and he talks to Claire and asks her to cover the trail by voting for Kendra. At tribal council, Bertha plays her idol, like SS told her to, and Ryan goes to the Edge in a 2-1-0 vote.
Episode 11: Now down to seven players remaining, they get a loved ones visit. SS wins the reward and brings along his allies Bertha and Claire, leaving the Kama four unchecked. Joe forms a bond with Inez, and soon, the Kama four decide to vote out Bertha for betraying them. Joe wins his second immunity challenge, and Nick talks to Claire to flip her from her side, which she agrees. SS is pissed off at the fact that Kendra is doing nothing and will probably have a good shot at making the end, so he targets her. Because Claire flipped, SS and Bertha were down 5-2, and Bertha goes to the jury in a5-2 vote, leaving SS on the bottom.
Episode 12: As Bertha arrives at the Edge, the people on the Edge receive letters from home, and they are overjoyed with this new development. In the real game, Inez wins the reward, and brings along her ideal final three with Joe and Kendra, seeing them as easier to beat. Joe wins his third immunity challenge, and people start to worry about him. SS and Claire have an argument about the latter flipping, causing Nick to see a golden opportunity. He, Claire, and Kendra would vote for SS, while SS, Inez, and Joe would vote for Claire, and he would get Kendra to flip, telling her that she needs to make a big move to win the game, and that plan worked. Claire and SS tie in the votes, Kendra flips, and Claire becomes the last person sent to the Edge.
Finale: The final five walk into a challenge meant for 12- the re-entry challenge. Gen, surprising everyone, returns to the game after being out of it for 32 days. The other contestants welcome Gen back into the game, but all silently agree that she has to go ASAP. This plan is derailed when Gen wins the first immunity challenge of the finale, so SS, the biggest frontrunner, becomes a target after he tries to form an alliance with Gen and Inez, and Inez tells Nick and Joe about it. They then get Kendra on board, and the four of them vote out SS 4-2, once again eliminating a frontrunner from Manu. Back at camp, Gen makes it very clear she was not happy with the way the votes turned out, so she calls out Inez for flipping. This causes the entire tribe to be even more incentivized to vote her out, so when Joe wins his fourth immunity, they all pin their votes onto Gen. Nick also finds an idol, being another person to find an idol on the last day they are eligible to be played. Nick tries to give Gen false hope, saying that Kendra will be voted out instead, but Gen doesn't believe him, and so Gen becomes the thirteenth member of the jury in a 4-1 vote. Now with only Kamas left, the final four feel relieved, but know that only the best player will win. Nick wins immunity, and he is given the task to save someone, and make the other two players do fire, and whoever wins will get a spot in the final three. Because he was so closely aligned with Joe, he decides to save him, despite Joe being widely respected by the jury, and he made Kendra and Inez make fire, which Kendra comes out of victorious. Inez becomes the fourteenth and final juror, and wishes the final three luck while she leaves the game. The final three is Joe, Kendra, and Nick. They each give their speeches, but Kendra kept getting cut off by the jury for being a follower, although Karl feels bad for her and gives her a pity vote. Nick is seen as a massive dick by the jury due to his no holds barred, villainous gameplay, and he almost lost Gen and Claire's votes due to how he played with them. Joe receives the most praise for playing the game and not making it personal, winning a lot of challenges, and for his sob story at tribal council for his PTSD, and the jury awarded him the win in an 8-5-1 vote. He also won the Fan Favorite award for being relatable to veterans who watch the show.
Winner and Fan Favorite: Joseph "Joe" Vorobyov, u/Twig7665
Next season will feature the return of the Blood Vs Water twist, this time with a 24 person cast, the largest in King's Survivor history, and will be the last season before the long-awaited Winners at War season. 12 returning players and their loved ones will battle it out for the prize of one million dollars, and some may even go as far as voting out their own loved ones.
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2020.10.25 00:16 living_on_the_edge_ The thing that we all secretly wish for has happend.

My ex wants me back.
Here is a little backstory:
My boyfriend of two years, broke up with me a little over three months ago. We had an amazing relationship, and i honesty thought that he was my soulmate, but out of the blue, he broke up with me because he lost feelings. I was in shock, of course, two days before, we had a romantic date weekend and i didn’t noticed anything suspicious. But in fact, he lost feelings for me back in March, he had been dealing with this for three months!
I was heartbroken, felt betrayed and quite stupid. How did i not noticed anything in those three months. It felt like he kinda used me. He said he didn’t tell me sooner because he was afraid he would end something good, and hoped his feelings would come back. I understand the way of thinking here, but we all know it’s not how things work, feelings don’t magically come back, you have to work for it, with each other.
The past three months were rough but with support of my friends and family it was bearable. In the beginning of October it had been three months since, which means he lost his feelings half a year ago, and that is a long time. It was time for me to let go and move on, he would never get back, and he would never apologize.
Well, i though wrong. last week he reached out after NC. He needed to speak to me. I agreed after some days of hesitating. I still love him. I just couldn’t say no.
He isn’t really the guy who admits to be wrong, so i didn’t expect much.
wrong again. He apologized, he said he missed me, wants me back, been a dick. etc.ect. He learned from it. Wants to work on the relationship. He admits the feelings were less, but the love was never gone. Due to stress at work, home and school he shut me out. He felt like he needed to deal with this alone. I think he saw me as a “stress factor” too. Now he knows i was the opposite of a stress factor, i was/am the place to destress.
so yeah, he wants me back… and i honesty don’t know what to do. I told him i needed to think and I been thinking for days now. My heart wants it soooo badly but my common sense knows better.
Im afraid that he shuts me out and break up with me without explanation, again. The trust is gone. I always felt like i knew what was going on in his head, but i was wrong. I also feel kinda uncomfortable around him not necessarily weird, havent seen him for a long time, and last time he hurt me badly. but i am afraid that this won’t go away.
I also belief i will be insecure if we stared dating again. I think i constantly need confirmation that he still loves me. His feelings were less, who says it’s coming back? maybe he just misses the relationship and not me.
And then my parents and friends, what would they think. (my parents are cool with whatever i decide, but it would definitely be awkward when he comes over)
Also i’m 22, im still young. Do i want to be in a flawed relationship at my age? Is this really the guy im suppose to marry? (asked me half a year ago and i would have said yes without a doubt)
So that are the cons. pros:
Like i said i still feel things for him, i guess love, but it is hard to say, my butterflys were kinda killed.. can we bring this back to life hmmm..
We had a great relationship, our friends called us the dream couple, and we proudly agreed. what we had is rare. but it is gone, is it worth it to find out if there is still a future for us?
Every couple has its ups and downs, right? We never had, maybe this is our down?
Part of me is like fuck it, let’s try, i want this, i want him, we had a great time, let’s do it again. and if it don’t work out, at least we tried?
What are you thoughts? How should i handle this?
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2020.10.24 23:07 Sofia_Gray_Wolf ‡ LITERATE ROLEPLAY ‡

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[ Beta 2.5 ]
ѕтσяу иαмє- Førbíddéñ Løvé ~
тнємє- 18 + Overwatch Fandom Drama Romance Smut Comedy More to your wildest dreams
Role Play Location -
Facebook Messenger Discord Snapchat
Rules:
-Likes and reactions will be ignored, comment if interested. Commenting is how you initiate getting into my PMS, Not liking, not adding.
-Please read everything, I often find people immediately dismiss something without truly looking into it. Sometimes, especially with me, things are not always as they seem.
  • WARNING, This role play requires you to be able to Read, This is a in - depth role play, I'm mostly a Novelistic Literate Roleplayer and Writer. I'm looking for someone who can type a " Real " reply. More than 3 - 5 paragraphs per reply.
-Be civil, Respect opinions, ideas, viewpoints. Most of my Role Plays are from multiple backgrounds, with various religions, beliefs, and experiences.
-Don't be the center of attention all the time, this being said. You can be hurt and injured or seeking attention but give it to others when it's there time. Just because the Role play is centered around someone, doesn't mean they have to have all the attention.
-Literate which means at least four to five paragraphs, and a few of dialogue per response, add onto the story. Make your own ideas and twist the story to your favor.
-Basic information is provided, such as this being a fandom roleplay. I would like to Role Play with people that are familiar with Overwatch and it's lore. If not, at least knowledgeable about a few specific characters.
-My character's Biography, is exceptionally in depth with this being said, I will not make you read past a limit, that will be marked as " ~{☆}~ " If you at least read to that marker, you should be all right.
Introduction ~
Owner - So this is a Førbíddéñ Løvé Romance Roleplay, So let me explain. This Role Play pretty much follows the original plot, simply adding a piece of history in, only for it to show later in the unfilled story. basically, I added to Widow's childhood so my character would make more sense. The idea of this Role Play, is a romance between my character John and Amélie, A.K.A Widowmaker. The romance is complicated, exploring Amélue's past. Could she remember her first, and true lover?
Please keep in mind that this post is set up for multiple community platforms, everything will apply, but in different ways. For example, sometimes can include the photos in the post, sometimes can't.
There are a few different styles of Amélie, the female, So I have included a few different pictures. You're free to pick which female variation you would like to play, which one that's more appealing to you. If my character is not appealing, I will find another image other male that would be more appealing.
I do, I want to apologize here and now for my character being insanely overpowered. However, I made my character like this because of who Amélie is, what she's like. Personally, I think it's a good fit. I don't want John to see much combat, because of who he is. But small squabbles are fine. I also need to state that this is a Male × Female, possibly open to Female × Female. However, Please understand my character is from another OC, so please follow what I tell you in PMS.
Plot - [ Obviously Romance, I would like to hold off and smut. I believe it should definitely be a key factor of intimacy and Romance, but first we need to get to the Romance stage. I would like there to be story first, drama, tension, confusion, uncertainty but trusting, kindness, E.C.T. ]
John's memories hard to remember due to the coma, and his lover's, Amélie Locked away through brainwashing. Would their love and time together uncover their past, helping them free themselves and find true love once again?
Starter : [ I have included a small starter for both characters. Please use the starters to slightly get a feel for the situation. I also apologize for the starter being a narrative view, we will discuss how to continue the starter if you're interested. ]
A long time ago, a young couple lived in peace and harmony. But all that changed when the Talon attacked. A male named John, a female named Amélie, were a couple in their early teens. They grew up together, through their entire lives. John's family moved to France shortly after his birth. That's where the two met, and became instant best friends as younglings. Started dating in their early teens. However, Amélie would be needed for a plan years later, so a group of villains named Talon kidnapped her. Brainwashing her to forget John, and fall for another man that she would later be tasked to kill, She completely forgot about John. Her memories locked away. To ensure that John wasn't any trouble, they kidnapped him as well. Throwing him into a time hole, and sending him back to the second century during medieval times.
It was there that John became a Witcher, and took enough trials to become immortal. Waiting through several centuries to exact his revenge. Being sent back, in the same world where everything happened the same, there would be another one of him, another lover. He planned to change what happened to him, for all the Johns after him. Being the most powerful, He hunted Talon, stopping the ambush and allowing the other John and Amélie to live out their lives. With Talon defeated and the timeline now altered into his favor, He used the time machine to return to his own time, around 25 years after the incident.
John landed in the North Pole. Even with a slow heart rate, breathing, pulse, and more mutations. The cold eventually got to him, leaving him unconscious in the snow. Luckily, not long after, an Overwatch hero by the name of Ana, found him. Bringing him back to receive medical attention. It was there, that Mercy found his memories, learning his story, and his capabilities. With this in mind, without consulting the rest of Overwatch. She did what was believed to be right, and contacted Amélie, otherwise known as Widow. Briefly explaining the situation, As well as sending an invitation to Widow to meet her, briefing her that it's about her brainwashing and past.
Mercy moved to John to a secure location, he was in a low-grade coma. So she provided only the necessary equipment to keep him stable, he would come out of it eventually on his own, No more than a few days. Mercy left the video, explaining that it was too risky to meet somebody from the opposite faction by herself. That she would come back and check soon, and if John was still there then she would take him back into care. She also went further to explain that their past were intertwined, and that he was the answer to everything she had been wondering. Mercy explained that Widow had no reason to trust her, and that the man's life would be up to her. Mercy never said anything, but she always believed Widow was still the sweet girl most knew, Her heart was too big to become emotionless, No matter how slow it would beat.
[ If you were interested, please comment " J × W " below. there are a few things we need to discuss, such as how I do not include my biography in this post, as well as how we will continue the starter. Thank you for reading, and I hope you're interested. ]
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2020.10.24 23:05 Sofia_Gray_Wolf ‡ LITERATE ROLEPLAY ‡

For a better viewing experience, please refer to the link provided. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1yJlR9Dk6jD8hWkhyN9WObBlmyTweKno8OLCBHwesx7c/edit?usp=drivesdk
‡ LITERATE ROLEPLAY ‡
[ Beta 2.5 ]
ѕтσяу иαмє- Førbíddéñ Løvé ~
тнємє- 18 + Overwatch Fandom Drama Romance Smut Comedy More to your wildest dreams
Role Play Location -
Facebook Messenger Discord Snapchat
Rules:
-Likes and reactions will be ignored, comment if interested. Commenting is how you initiate getting into my PMS, Not liking, not adding.
-Please read everything, I often find people immediately dismiss something without truly looking into it. Sometimes, especially with me, things are not always as they seem.
  • WARNING, This role play requires you to be able to Read, This is a in - depth role play, I'm mostly a Novelistic Literate Roleplayer and Writer. I'm looking for someone who can type a " Real " reply. More than 3 - 5 paragraphs per reply.
-Be civil, Respect opinions, ideas, viewpoints. Most of my Role Plays are from multiple backgrounds, with various religions, beliefs, and experiences.
-Don't be the center of attention all the time, this being said. You can be hurt and injured or seeking attention but give it to others when it's there time. Just because the Role play is centered around someone, doesn't mean they have to have all the attention.
-Literate which means at least four to five paragraphs, and a few of dialogue per response, add onto the story. Make your own ideas and twist the story to your favor.
-Basic information is provided, such as this being a fandom roleplay. I would like to Role Play with people that are familiar with Overwatch and it's lore. If not, at least knowledgeable about a few specific characters.
-My character's Biography, is exceptionally in depth with this being said, I will not make you read past a limit, that will be marked as " ~{☆}~ " If you at least read to that marker, you should be all right.
Introduction ~
Owner - So this is a Førbíddéñ Løvé Romance Roleplay, So let me explain. This Role Play pretty much follows the original plot, simply adding a piece of history in, only for it to show later in the unfilled story. basically, I added to Widow's childhood so my character would make more sense. The idea of this Role Play, is a romance between my character John and Amélie, A.K.A Widowmaker. The romance is complicated, exploring Amélue's past. Could she remember her first, and true lover?
Please keep in mind that this post is set up for multiple community platforms, everything will apply, but in different ways. For example, sometimes can include the photos in the post, sometimes can't.
There are a few different styles of Amélie, the female, So I have included a few different pictures. You're free to pick which female variation you would like to play, which one that's more appealing to you. If my character is not appealing, I will find another image other male that would be more appealing.
I do, I want to apologize here and now for my character being insanely overpowered. However, I made my character like this because of who Amélie is, what she's like. Personally, I think it's a good fit. I don't want John to see much combat, because of who he is. But small squabbles are fine. I also need to state that this is a Male × Female, possibly open to Female × Female. However, Please understand my character is from another OC, so please follow what I tell you in PMS.
Plot - [ Obviously Romance, I would like to hold off and smut. I believe it should definitely be a key factor of intimacy and Romance, but first we need to get to the Romance stage. I would like there to be story first, drama, tension, confusion, uncertainty but trusting, kindness, E.C.T. ]
John's memories hard to remember due to the coma, and his lover's, Amélie Locked away through brainwashing. Would their love and time together uncover their past, helping them free themselves and find true love once again?
Starter : [ I have included a small starter for both characters. Please use the starters to slightly get a feel for the situation. I also apologize for the starter being a narrative view, we will discuss how to continue the starter if you're interested. ]
A long time ago, a young couple lived in peace and harmony. But all that changed when the Talon attacked. A male named John, a female named Amélie, were a couple in their early teens. They grew up together, through their entire lives. John's family moved to France shortly after his birth. That's where the two met, and became instant best friends as younglings. Started dating in their early teens. However, Amélie would be needed for a plan years later, so a group of villains named Talon kidnapped her. Brainwashing her to forget John, and fall for another man that she would later be tasked to kill, She completely forgot about John. Her memories locked away. To ensure that John wasn't any trouble, they kidnapped him as well. Throwing him into a time hole, and sending him back to the second century during medieval times.
It was there that John became a Witcher, and took enough trials to become immortal. Waiting through several centuries to exact his revenge. Being sent back, in the same world where everything happened the same, there would be another one of him, another lover. He planned to change what happened to him, for all the Johns after him. Being the most powerful, He hunted Talon, stopping the ambush and allowing the other John and Amélie to live out their lives. With Talon defeated and the timeline now altered into his favor, He used the time machine to return to his own time, around 25 years after the incident.
John landed in the North Pole. Even with a slow heart rate, breathing, pulse, and more mutations. The cold eventually got to him, leaving him unconscious in the snow. Luckily, not long after, an Overwatch hero by the name of Ana, found him. Bringing him back to receive medical attention. It was there, that Mercy found his memories, learning his story, and his capabilities. With this in mind, without consulting the rest of Overwatch. She did what was believed to be right, and contacted Amélie, otherwise known as Widow. Briefly explaining the situation, As well as sending an invitation to Widow to meet her, briefing her that it's about her brainwashing and past.
Mercy moved to John to a secure location, he was in a low-grade coma. So she provided only the necessary equipment to keep him stable, he would come out of it eventually on his own, No more than a few days. Mercy left the video, explaining that it was too risky to meet somebody from the opposite faction by herself. That she would come back and check soon, and if John was still there then she would take him back into care. She also went further to explain that their past were intertwined, and that he was the answer to everything she had been wondering. Mercy explained that Widow had no reason to trust her, and that the man's life would be up to her. Mercy never said anything, but she always believed Widow was still the sweet girl most knew, Her heart was too big to become emotionless, No matter how slow it would beat.
[ If you were interested, please comment " J × W " below. there are a few things we need to discuss, such as how I do not include my biography in this post, as well as how we will continue the starter. Thank you for reading, and I hope you're interested. ]
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2020.10.24 23:01 Sofia_Gray_Wolf ‡ LITERATE ROLEPLAY ‡

For a better viewing experience, please refer to the link provided.
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1yJlR9Dk6jD8hWkhyN9WObBlmyTweKno8OLCBHwesx7c/edit?usp=drivesdk
‡ LITERATE ROLEPLAY ‡
[ Beta 2.0 ]
ѕтσяу иαмє- Førbíddéñ Løvé ~
тнємє- 18 + Overwatch Fandom Drama Romance Smut Comedy More to your wildest dreams
Role Play Location -
Facebook Messenger Discord Snapchat
Rules:
-Likes and reactions will be ignored, comment if interested. Commenting is how you initiate getting into my PMS, Not liking, not adding.
-Please read everything, I often find people immediately dismiss something without truly looking into it. Sometimes, especially with me, things are not always as they seem.
  • WARNING, This role play requires you to be able to Read, This is a in - depth role play, I'm mostly a Novelistic Literate Roleplayer and Writer. I'm looking for someone who can type a " Real " reply. More than 3 - 5 paragraphs per reply.
-Be civil, Respect opinions, ideas, viewpoints. Most of my Role Plays are from multiple backgrounds, with various religions, beliefs, and experiences.
-Don't be the center of attention all the time, this being said. You can be hurt and injured or seeking attention but give it to others when it's there time. Just because the Role play is centered around someone, doesn't mean they have to have all the attention.
-Literate which means at least four to five paragraphs, and a few of dialogue per response, add onto the story. Make your own ideas and twist the story to your favor.
-Basic information is provided, such as this being a fandom roleplay. I would like to Role Play with people that are familiar with Overwatch and it's lore. If not, at least knowledgeable about a few specific characters.
-My character's Biography, is exceptionally in depth with this being said, I will not make you read past a limit, that will be marked as " ~{☆}~ " If you at least read to that marker, you should be all right.
Introduction ~
Owner - So this is a Førbíddéñ Løvé Romance Roleplay, So let me explain. This Role Play pretty much follows the original plot, simply adding a piece of history in, only for it to show later in the unfilled story. basically, I added to Widow's childhood so my character would make more sense. The idea of this Role Play, is a romance between my character John and Amélie, A.K.A Widowmaker. The romance is complicated, exploring Amélue's past. Could she remember her first, and true lover?
Please keep in mind that this post is set up for multiple community platforms, everything will apply, but in different ways. For example, sometimes I can include the photos in the post, sometimes I can't.
There are a few different styles of Amélie, the female, So I have included a few different pictures. You're free to pick which female variation you would like to play, which one that's more appealing to you. If my character is not appealing, I will find another image other male that would be more appealing.
I do, I want to apologize here and now for my character being insanely overpowered. However, I made my character like this because of who Amélie is, what she's like. Personally, I think it's a good fit. I don't want John to see much combat, because of who he is. But small squabbles are fine. I also need to state that this is a Male × Female, possibly open to Female × Female. However, Please understand my character is from another OC, so please follow what I tell you in PMS.
Plot - [ Obviously Romance, I would like to hold off and smut. I believe it should definitely be a key factor of intimacy and Romance, but first we need to get to the Romance stage. I would like there to be story first, drama, tension, confusion, uncertainty but trusting, kindness, E.C.T. ]
John's memories hard to remember due to the coma, and his lover's, Amélie Locked away through brainwashing. Would their love and time together uncover their past, helping them free themselves and find true love once again?
Starter : [ I have included a small starter for both characters. Please use the starters to slightly get a feel for the situation. I also apologize for the starter being a narrative view, we will discuss how to continue the starter if you're interested. ]
A long time ago, a young couple lived in peace and harmony. But all that changed when the Talon attacked. A male named John, a female named Amélie, were a couple in their early teens. They grew up together, through their entire lives. John's family moved to France shortly after his birth. That's where the two met, and became instant best friends as younglings. Started dating in their early teens. However, Amélie would be needed for a plan years later, so a group of villains named Talon kidnapped her. Brainwashing her to forget John, and fall for another man that she would later be tasked to kill, She completely forgot about John. Her memories locked away. To ensure that John wasn't any trouble, they kidnapped him as well. Throwing him into a time hole, and sending him back to the second century during medieval times.
It was there that John became a Witcher, and took enough trials to become immortal. Waiting through several centuries to exact his revenge. Being sent back, in the same world where everything happened the same, there would be another one of him, another lover. He planned to change what happened to him, for all the Johns after him. Being the most powerful, He hunted Talon, stopping the ambush and allowing the other John and Amélie to live out their lives. With Talon defeated and the timeline now altered into his favor, He used the time machine to return to his own time, around 25 years after the incident.
John landed in the North Pole. Even with a slow heart rate, breathing, pulse, and more mutations. The cold eventually got to him, leaving him unconscious in the snow. Luckily, not long after, an Overwatch hero by the name of Ana, found him. Bringing him back to receive medical attention. It was there, that Mercy found his memories, learning his story, and his capabilities. With this in mind, without consulting the rest of Overwatch. She did what was believed to be right, and contacted Amélie, otherwise known as Widow. Briefly explaining the situation, As well as sending an invitation to Widow to meet her, briefing her that it's about her brainwashing and past.
Mercy moved to John to a secure location, he was in a low-grade coma. So she provided only the necessary equipment to keep him stable, he would come out of it eventually on his own, No more than a few days. Mercy left the video, explaining that it was too risky to meet somebody from the opposite faction by herself. That she would come back and check soon, and if John was still there then she would take him back into care. She also went further to explain that their past were intertwined, and that he was the answer to everything she had been wondering. Mercy explained that Widow had no reason to trust her, and that the man's life would be up to her. Mercy never said anything, but she always believed Widow was still the sweet girl most knew, Her heart was too big to become emotionless, No matter how slow it would beat.
[ If you were interested, please comment " J × W " below. there are a few things we need to discuss, such as how I do not include my biography in this post, as well as how we will continue the starter. Thank you for reading, and I hope you're interested. ]
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2020.10.24 22:52 chromatinnies Am I being over dramatic? Thoughts on this situation?

Hey guys,
I will get straight to the point. I (23M) am currently dating my gf (21F). We have been dating for a little over two years and it has been mostly great. She is a great person, makes me happy, cares about me, etc. Our sex life is great and we have both explored so much by being together.
There are two main issues I have:
  1. This is not that big of a deal and is no longer an issue. In the beginning of our relationship, she did not know how to set boundaries and kept in touch with a previous FWB (who she admitted she had feelings for back in the day, but short lived, etc). She was open and honest about everything and would not pretend that she they did not speak. She essentially cut him off and would only mainly talk to him when he would reach out. He was not a genuine friend, only hit her up for favors, etc. Eventually, they stopped talking after a year in our relationship when the dude realized she was no longer trying to stay in contact, and this is no longer a problem. My issue is that it took her few months to realize I had a problem with what she was doing. However, she finally understood where I was coming from and we have not had this problem in 1.5 years. It is just something that bothers me. Any advice on how to fully just move on from this?
  2. This the BIGGER deal for me. Call me old-fashioned or whatever, but I have huge problem with her sexual past. We have discussed this extensively and she has been honest with me and willing to hear me out. I regret opening this can of worms, but I am/was young and did not know any better. My problem is the age in which she became sexually active. By the age of 19, she has had sex with five guys (2 of them a couple of times), and the other three only once. It did not bother me at first, but then I slowly became irritated by it. I do not expect people to be virgins or anything, but I always envisioned myself with someone who at least tried to have sex with someone they thought there was a connection to. Her sexual encounters were mainly with people were like random guys who neither of them cared about each other. She has done stuff with other guys not including sex, just making out and stuff but it still bothers me. Our sex life is great because most of the stuff we do now in our sex life, neither of us had done previously, with the exception of a few "basic" things (and these few things I let get to me).
Ultimately, she is a great person, a great girlfriend. We have no current issues and we are both extremely supportive of each other's goals and stuff like that. Problem 1 is no longer a problem, it is just me not getting over a problem in the past. And problem 2 is essentially me judging her for her past before she met me. I do not know what to do. Deep down, I know it would be pretty silly to end this relationship for something like that. It is not like other girls I meet will be virgins, or perfect, or whatever and I am aware of that.
With that being said, any advice on how to continue on with this relationship being fully in peace and not letting the far away past affect my happiness right now? Please, would love anyone's input who has been in a similar situation or would know what to do? I just want to let go and be happy, and if this means I have to break up I will consider it, but I just think there is a better solution.
Thank you in advance.
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2020.10.24 22:06 oliver_babish This Day in FFL History: Exactly what can you do on just 7 catches? (Kenny Britt, 10/24/2010)

When you look through the list of the top 25 receiving games of the past 10 years, many familiar names repeat themselves: Megatron, Julio Jones, Antonio Brown, OLAS Josh Gordon, AJ Green.
And then there's Kenny Britt.
Do you even remember Kenny Britt? From the football factory on the Piscataway which is Rutgers University, he was a first-round pick who hovered around pretty good, at best for most of his career, rarely great.
And this week, 10 years ago today, was not auspicious. Titans QB Vince Young was injured, so journeyman Kerry Collins was under center for the day.
More importantly, Britt had already missed a few days of practice after being involved in an after-hours bar fight in Nashville ("I was definitely at the club. I was definitely having a good time. I'm 22 years old. I'm going to go out and try and have some fun and try to live like I'm 22 years old and not be an old man," he'd later say while insisting he was trying to break up a fight), leading to coach Jeff "8-8" Fisher benching Britt for the first quarter of the game.
Given all this, you weren't starting him that week. Look at his game log heading into this game -- yeah, the td streak was there, but those yards? Ugh:
Rece Rece Rece Rece
Date Opp Tgt Rec Yds TD
2010-09-19 PIT 7 5 41 0
2010-09-26 NYG 2 2 26 1
2010-10-03 DEN 7 3 23 1
2010-10-10 DAL 6 4 86 1
2010-10-18 JAX 5 2 33 1
Provided by Pro-Football-Reference.com: View Original Table Generated 10/24/2020.
He didn't even receive his first target until more than halfway through the second quarter.
And then, Britt got started. Here's every single target he had.
Quarter Time Down ToGo Location Detail PHI TEN
2 6:35 3 6 PHI 26 Kerry Collins pass complete deep left to Kenny Britt for 26 yards touchdown 3 6
2 1:56 1 10 OTI 20 Kerry Collins pass incomplete deep right intended for Kenny Britt 10 7
3 10:28 3 7 OTI 23 Kerry Collins pass incomplete intended for Kenny Britt is intercepted by Asante Samuel at TEN-41 16 7
3 4:54 2 12 OTI 1 Kerry Collins pass incomplete deep left intended for Kenny Britt. Penalty on Ellis Hobbs: Defensive Pass Interfere 21 yards (no play) 16 7
3 4:46 1 10 OTI 22 Kerry Collins pass complete deep left to Kenny Britt for 34 yards 16 7
3 3:15 3 1 PHI 35 Kerry Collins pass complete short right to Kenny Britt for 6 yards 16 7
4 13:26 1 10 OTI 20 Kerry Collins pass complete deep left to Kenny Britt for 80 yards touchdown 19 16
4 11:32 2 9 OTI 35 Kerry Collins pass complete deep middle to Kenny Britt for 42 yards (tackle by Nate Allen) 19 17
4 9:42 3 12 PHI 25 Kerry Collins pass incomplete short left intended for Kenny Britt. Penalty on Stewart Bradley: Defensive Offside 5 yards (no play) 19 17
4 6:55 2 8 OTI 49 Kerry Collins pass complete deep left to Kenny Britt for 21 yards (tackle by Nate Allen) 19 20
4 6:31 1 10 PHI 30 Kerry Collins pass incomplete short left intended for Kenny Britt 19 20
4 5:08 2 8 PHI 16 Kerry Collins pass complete deep middle to Kenny Britt for 16 yards touchdown 19 26
Provided by Pro-Football-Reference.com: View Original Table Generated 10/24/2020.
Add it up: 225 yards, 3 tds. In 0 PPR scoring, the second-highest receiving day of the 2010s, and the Titans won, raising their record to 5-2. Via the AP:
Britt said he felt he had to redeem himself a little bit. He also said he learned he shouldn't be out after midnight and his fiancee was also mad at him, but he wouldn't comment on the fight.
"My job is out there to go play," Britt said. "That's what they asked me to go do, and my teammates, they were like , 'Hey, erase that stuff out of your head, go out there and play your best.' That's what I tried to do."
As for the cornerback who was responsible for Britt?:
Kenny Britt's big day cost Ellis Hobbs his starting job.
Dimitri Patterson has replaced Hobbs as the right cornerback for the Philadelphia Eagles. The sixth-year pro will start against Peyton Manning and the Indianapolis Colts (4-2) on Sunday.
"It was a surprise, but it's an opportunity, so I'm grateful for it," Patterson said of his promotion. "Any time I'm able to get on the field, it's a beautiful thing. I just try to go in there and make a statement. That's my goal. If I get five reps in a game, I'm trying to make a statement to everybody in the league and I'm going to do that Sunday and for the rest of my career."
[It remains, to this day, the biggest receiving day against the Eagles in the team's long history.]
What happened next?
First, of course, Kenny Britt was added to every FF roster on earth. (But thank goodness, given what I'm about to say, this was in the pre-FAB universe, largely.)
Because the rest is not what you'd expect. Britt hurt his hamstring the very next game and missed a month, then totalled 341y, 2tds in the four remaining games he played. The Titans went 1-8 the rest of the way. (And the Eagles would win six of their next seven and make the playoffs.)
Ah, football.
More from the series
9/10: JIMMY (9-10-2000)
9/13: Barry Sanders and Terrell Davis welcome you to Peak Bellcow
11/15: the night Michael Vick broke FFL
11/16: The Jonas Gray Game
11/19: "November 19, 2006 -- when LDT, Chad Johnson, and Lee Evans all went a little nuts."
11/20: Larry Johnson's record-setting end-of-season dominance begins.
11/21: Edge's biggest game in his record-setting rookie year.
11/30: Bo Jackson, Monday Night Magic.
12/1: Eric Decker reminds us there is no FF God.
12/4: Let's visit FF in the Stone Ages (ESPN, 1997).
12/7: Portis + Garcia (2003) = Derrick Henry (2018)
12/11: Le'veon Bell carries, carries, carries owners to a playoff win (2016)
12/15: Behold, the Jamaalocaust!
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2020.10.24 22:06 TiredTulipan TW: Only healthy babies get a room

I could put endless trigger warnings here but mostly my birth story. I'm so sorry you have to read this. I had to get it off my chest.
This year I had to make the hardest decision of my short life. I had to ab0rt my son for medical reasons at 23 weeks pregnant. He had severe hydronephrosis, none of his kidneys were able to function and as such I had basically zero amount of amniotic fluid. Our specialist said he might suffocate in 2-4 weeks. We found this out at 16 weeks, we waited, prayed that his condition will get better, it did not. I felt so exposed, so vulnerable waiting for my son to stop breathing, to stop moving. It was always the highlight of my day when i felt him move. I knew I had to take the more humane route.This baby was very much wanted. And i don't want him to suffer.
On Monday, I went into the hospital so they can induce labour for me. I asked the staff there if i will be able to hold him for a few minutes afterwards. They reassured me that i can. Women in this country don't get to go to a delivery room or even a separate room if they get an abort!on, doesn't matter if it's 5 days or 5 months old. You have to give birth on a hospital bed with puppy pads underneath your butt. There are 4 beds in one room, you might get lucky and 3 other women can see you give birth. I could go to the delivery room if the labour would have started earlier on its own. Not if you do it "willingly". This is so inhumane, especially in a country where anywhere you go you get family propaganda in your face. They want us to give birth to more children, but they drag the women already in pain through the dirt if anything goes wrong. I WANTED this child, I WANTED it to go right. It's not my fault. At least I'm trying to tell myself that.
I got induced on Tuesday from 7am but nothing happened, i wasn't dilated but i was in pain. At night they expected me to sleep without any painkillers/sedatives.
On Wednesday morning I got another IV. I knew it's gonna happen that day, I was alone in the room, I only could pray that they don't bring another patient in. The nurses treated me like I got pregnant drunken in a club and went to ab0rt my child. Nothing's wrong with that if you choose to do that. But I felt the prejudice because I look young. I'm engaged but not married, so that means i'm a single mom, right? That's a sin! At least that's what I felt from their attitude. Around noon the pain started to become unbearable so I asked for painkillers. I got one through IV which did absolutely nothing. Then I got a shot. That was a mistake. It only numbed me, I barely could move, I was extremely scared. I had to beg and cry to them so that I can get some relief. The doctor let me have an epidural but the midwifes and nurses never gave me one after hours of crying. They played it off as i was crying because i was emotional. They left me alone for hours.
At 16:47, on the 17th of June, I gave birth to my son alone, scared. He was still in his amniotic sac but he was beautiful. Peaceful. I made the mistake to push the nurse caller button and she yanked my baby out of my hands and told me to be quiet. I, again, asked to see him. Her response? "Why, what do you wanna do with it?". She wrapped my baby in a blanket and rushed out the door. I was alone again. I honestly wish I could bleed to death there. No one was allowed to be with me because of COVID-19. Only women who give birth can have their partner in with them. I was not giving birth. Of course.I only heard one kind word that day, from the anaesthesiologist on my way to my D&C afterwards.If you do some maths, you can see that i was in labour for 33+ hours. They do C-section after 24 hours normally. But not on me, I wasn't giving birth.My due date was 20th Oct. I could have been a mom by now. Not the best but the most loving.

I don't know what to say. This is happening in 2020. In Europe. Where they want to encourage women to have more children. I've never been this humiliated before. I'm scared for my future self and for anyone who gives birth in this country. I miss you M.
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2020.10.24 21:52 SnooRoar The world is going to be like Japan in the future in terms of loneliness becoming normal

Japan is at least a decade ahead of the rest of the world in terms of most young people not getting married, having low birth rates, not having families, and so on. You can already see that happening in any Western country where less and less people are having children. It is not unreasonable to expect that people will eventually give up on dating altogether and stay single for their whole entire lives. That is the future we are heading
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2020.10.24 21:45 Caivs_92 Katawa shoujo has helped me try to improve my life

Hi everyone:
The first thing I wanted to do was apologize for my English. It's not my mother tongue, I only know what I learned in high school or watching TV series. That is why I apologize in advance for grammatical or vocabulary errors, which will surely be there.
I open this thread to tell how Katawa Shoujo, without realizing it, has changed me. I started playing it by chance, as an opportunity to get into a genre that I didn't know much about: the visual novels. As the plot progressed, it has been hitting me directly inside. At last I was able to look inside myself and seriously question what was happening to me, who I am and who I want to become. They are things that were there, ignored by me. I didn't want to be hurt and I preferred to live with the autopilot on, pretending nothing was wrong. The game gave me a slap on the face and prevented me from ignoring what was inside me any longer.
As a child I always wanted what anyone else: happiness. I wanted to love, I wanted to be loved, I wanted to have friends. I had a terrible panic of loneliness. My adolescence was not the best it could have been. They used to pick on me in high school because of my shyness, which led me to be a bit reticent. Every time I heard laughter on the street, I was always afraid that they were laughing at me, even though I knew it was silly. I developed a fear of social events. With women I was not particularly successful. Rather, I was the typical nice friend who had to see how the other boys took the girl you like. I didn't dare say anything to her either. The fear of rejection was immense, I was afraid of being ridiculed in front of everyone after the girl refuse me.
In the university I changed a bit. I became more open. I made a group of friends and eventually I started dating with a girl. She was a foreigner and had planned to return to her country when she finished the course, so we knew our relationship had an expiration date. When that moment arrived, we tried to maintain a distance relationship, despite knowing that it was a lie that we both wanted to believe so as not to break up. Finally she met someone in her country, broke up with me and started dating him. All my mental schemes were broken. I felt in love easily and I was a quite trusting boy, but at that time I decided that I would never trust anyone else. Never. I couldn't risk going through that pain again, that feeling of betrayal. I didn't want to lose anyone and I decided to withdraw into myself. I thought that I could only trust myself, since I would be the only one who would never fail me. Ironically, I failed myself in making that decision.
That doesn't mean I cut off my friends. I had them, but I always kept them at a distance. I kept everything important to me. We never talked about anything serious, just trivia and nonsense. Of course, I forgot to try another moderately serious relationship. I wasn't able to trust anyone else.
It's been five years and ten months since then until I started Katawa Shoujo. Spoiler about Lily's route. I passed Lily's route first. Those of you who have completed it will understand why I see myself represented. When I got to the good ending, I cried with happiness. Hisao achieved what I never did, and I was honestly happy for him. I questioned the mistakes that prevented me from having that same happy ending and the answer was clear: i was jealous and I had emotional dependence and insecurities. I had carried her with the full weight of my happiness, and perhaps that was too heavy a burden.
The next route I took was Emi's. That made me finish realizing the damage I had done to myself. Spoilers about Emi's route. Emi is a girl who, like me, was totally devastated after losing someone. So she decided to withdraw into herself and not completely trust anyone. It was a catharsis. I saw myself completely identified. When Emi finally opened up to others, the defenses that I had raised five years ago were broken. My world was cracked and my loneliness felt like too heavy a burden. I understood that I could still be happy, that there is always hope. As the story progressed, I felt things for Emi that I hadn't felt for a long time.
I couldn't avoid smile at his childishness and jokes. I like how she mess with Hisao, something that I also did with the girl I liked. I suffered to see the immense pain that she had decided to carry alone. I broke myself. I broke into a thousand pieces when I saw her cry in Hisao's arms, confessing that she loved him. I realized that I had also come to love that set of pixels in a way. I haven't felt this way in a long time. I missed what Hisao had with Emi, that mutual concern, that support with which to comfort you and to support you in your bad moments, that complicity. That way of laughing at the slightest excuse. I missed that closeness with someone and opening up to people the way Emi did with me.
Emi has taught me many things. What it was to love, what it was to be loved. I have anxiety, I am inconsistent and I use to start things that I never finish. I have overweight. Hisao struggled to exercise, but he wouldn't have done it without her. That's why Emi's words were branded on me, when he tells Hisao not to give up and keep running, that while he's alive there is always an excuse to keep moving and keep moving forward. That I had forgotten so long ago, to move on. I'm going to change, I'm going to trust in others again. I'm even going to start running and exercising and worrying more about my physical health, hoping that will help me combat anxiety too.
These days Katawa Shoujo has taught me a lot and has become a kind of refuge. When I realized that I would rather live the life of a young heart disease whose heart can fail at any time before mine, I realized that something was wrong and that I could not ignore it any longer. Emi's story did the rest. Things were not going well and the game taught me to see it, to reconnect with my interior, to realize my feelings, to rethink where I am going and who I want to be. I will continue playing the three routes that I am missing, and I will do Emi's one last time, and I must confess that I am somewhat afraid to complete it and lose that refuge that I have found these days. Video games were always my refuge, but in the world of Katawa Shoujo I am strangely comfortable, in some sense it is like my home and the students who study there like my friends.
In any case, I am opening up to people, trying again to have real conversations with my friends, trying new hobbies. Someday who knows if I can find my Emi and fall in love again. I know there are more threads talking about how the game changed people's lives, but I needed to let go of it, so that's why I wanted to register and share my experience. Also, I think telling my life to a group of strangers is a good way to open myself up to people again. And all this I have to thank the creators of Katawa Shoujo, Hisao and, above all, Emi.
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2020.10.24 21:20 FluffyMcGee5 Local COVID-19 Update (Sat Oct 24th)

Local COVID-19 Update (Sat Oct 24th)
  • 4 new cases reported today (all residents of London; Ages: 2 age 40-49 and 2 age 50-59). 1 is a long-term care home staff.
  • We are averaging 8 new cases per day (on average, 2 of those have "no known link").
  • 1 death reported today. A 51 year old female, which is heartbreaking news - a life lost way too young. I know some people will want to know if she had pre-existing conditions. In my opinion, this isn't our business and we shouldn't trivialize this loss. I'm thinking about the family today.
  • 10 recoveries reported today. Another case was hospitalized (not ICU).
  • Outbreak Update: New outbreak at Strathmere Lodge LTC in Strathroy. We currently have 9 long-term care/retirement home outbreaks.
  • School / Child Care Update: No new cases today. We have had 10 total cases (1 childcare/early years, 6 elementary, 3 secondary).
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COVID-19 Cases in Middlesex-London Health Region:
Date Total Cases Active Resolved Deceased
Sat Oct 24 1085 (+4) 62 (-7) 963 (+10) 60 (+1)
Fri Oct 23 1081 (+10) 69 (+1) 953 (+9) 59 (same)
Thu Oct 22 1071 (+11) 68 (+1) 944 (+10) 59 (same)
Wed Oct 21 1060 (+9) 67 (+2) 934 (+6) 59 (+1)
Tue Oct 20 1051 (+6) 65 (-2) 928 (+8) 58 (same)
Mon Oct 19 1045 (+11) 67 (-1) 920 (+12) 58 (same)
Sun Oct 18 1034 (+3) 68 (-4) 908 (+7) 58 (same)
Here is the subset related to long-term care/retirement homes:
Date Total Cases (A+B) Residents (A) Staff (B) Total Deceased
Sat Oct 24 219 (+1) 110 (same) 109 (+1) 38 (same)
Fri Oct 23 218 (same) 110 (same) 108 (same) 38 (same)
Thu Oct 22 218 (same) 110 (same) 108 (same) 38 (same)
Wed Oct 21 218 (same) 110 (same) 108 (same) 38 (same)
Tue Oct 20 218 (same) 110 (same) 108 (same) 38 (same)
Mon Oct 19 218 (+1) 110 (same) 108 (+1) 38 (same)
Sun Oct 18 217 (same) 110 (same) 107 (same) 38 (same)
Source: https://www.healthunit.com/novel-coronavirus#local-case-count
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2020.10.24 21:01 hehshduenendjd1337 GF went over to her ex-BFs house today... what to do?

I’ll keep this short and to the point. Been dating her since the start of October, during which time she cut her ex off completely. Yesterday we were arguing, and I bring up an earlier conversation when she said that she “wanted” her ex back in her life. She responded that she didn’t “want” him in her life, but she “needed” him in her life. Told her that was even worse.
She then went off saying I was being “petty”, “jealous” and other things along that line. I responded that it was a red flag; that you couldn’t have three people in a relationship. Argument degenerated further, eventually with her deciding to hang out with him all of today.
Got a text at midnight saying, “Sorry I overreacted hope you’re asleep. Talk later. Good night.” Despite this she hasn’t followed up on any of ours plans to hang out today, I’ve decided at this point that if she wants to continue dating she can come to me.
All this said I’m well aware that there’s major warning signs, but at the end of the day I trust her enough to know she won’t do anything intimate or sexual with him. It’s just the fact of the matter that she’s still talking to him and hanging out with him on a daily basis. She even talks about him constantly when I’m there.
When I was a young boy my father once told me that a tiny sapling will once grow into a great tree; and that is what I fear above all else. They dated for half a year or so, and she’s openly admitted that she still cares for him, and that he’s trying to get back with her. It’s my opinion that, if she continues down this path, they will eventually get back together.
In all honesty I’m content to let the cards fall where they will; if she calls me and apologizes, I’ll stay with her. If she doesn’t and gets back with him, I’ll expose her as the cheating whore she would become.
That said I’ve stood my ground, told her my intentions openly, and have no intention of chasing her. What is the best thing to do henceforth?
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2020.10.24 20:39 TwoToneAriel My boyfriend is weird about marriage

So boyfriend (m22) and I (f22) have been dating for about 1 year. We talk about our future all the time and he get really excited for us to be together for a long time. But we’re not in a rush and still taking things slow since we’re both young and not quite ready to get married. He’s also pretty scared of marriage. But I am looking forward to it one day and think it’s gonna be pretty great and I hope it’s to current boyfriend. Whenever one of our friends get married though (there’s been 5 or 6 this year) he always says things like “ugh” and “they’re crazy.” This week I mentioned my coworker got engaged and he said “she probably manipulated him into proposing.” I thought that was really odd because he doesn’t know either of them...
Even though he’s always told me he wants to be married one day and thinks that we will one day these types of comments make me worried or maybe he’s worried about me manipulating him. I feel like maybe he actually hates the idea of marriage.
Is this something I should be concerned about? and if he really is worried about those things is there anything I can do to help him not be scared of it so much?
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2020.10.24 20:20 brahhhyan My recent Vegas trip..

(This is a long one)
SO before anyone bashes me on taking a trip during this time, know that I was completely careful and responsible with the guidelines of this 2020 situation. BUT drinking on the other hand... I had a huge scare that happened to me which now makes me almost a week sober. But let me start where my drinking habits began..
I started drinking about 19 years old and I LOVED it in the beginning; to be able to take a drink and completely feel relaxed, powerful, have instant fun at your fingertips anytime of the day was magical. I had the typical early twenties phase, drinking, partying, meeting new people, it was funnn. It then turned into a bad habit QUICK. I drank for any reason possible. Day off tomorrow? DRINK. Had a "bad day" at work, DRINK. Got into a small argument with the boyfriend, DRINK. Btw I was a closeted, filipino, Christian boy at this time and any chance to rebel or escape was an excuse to DRINK. I started to notice it was getting a bit carried away when I got drunk before Church, it was my Birthday so why not? No one noticed, just thought I was in a good mood because it was my Birthday. Moving on a few years with almost a day to day habit of drinking I got a DUI. Young me honestly should've had more than one DUI and thinking about it now im terribly sorry for all those times I drank and drove, oh those many many many times, maybe my parents were praying so hard for me not to get into an accident or even worse kill someone... so thank you Lord for your divine protection.
Almost there.
I then moved out of California to Hawaii, the island of Maui, where I was born. When I first moved out here I barely drank. I was purely excited to be here, meet new people, a new job, be with my family, and be with my biological father more often, a NEW life. Well, it was definitely short lived. I met a guy, well actually I've known him through church and he lives here on Maui and sub story I thought he was straight but he's gay but besides the point he never really drank but now we've been drinking so much together and deep down I feel horrible. I dont want to rub these habits on him but I did. We both don't go to church at all anymore, we drink, got into some pills, I started up smoking ganja out here, it basically got worse yet in my eyes more "fun."
Currently:
I am now 32 years old. A heavy 13 years of my life. I dont regret anything. Not one bit. I knew what I was doing, I knew the choices I took, and yet by some miracle I am here today sharing a piece of my story. I do believe in a higher power but as the Bible goes being homosexual blantely states I am going to Hell. Did this fuel my desire to drink? Yes. Did my relationship with my parent's divorce and new step father inspired me to drink? Definitely. I can go on and on with these...excuses but at the end of the day it was my choice, and now I am choosing not to drink. I'm not sure how long this will last but I hope and pray it does.
Oh yeah! My Vegas trip. Almost done, sorry lol but thank you reader if you made it this far.
Alright so vegas 2020. Typical drink drink drink, but we were going IN on this trip and it was early in the day already drunk and my friend pulls out some Molly. I've drank and done molly many times before so im like Why Not. We popped 2 pills and it was pure blisssss for a few hours. This is where it happened, I go to sleep and I feel the need to burp, like indigestion? I never felt this way before. I then had the need to throw up so I rush to the bathroom and out came a deep red wine color that came gushing out. I was confused. I never ate anything that color nor did I drink wine... then another vomit the color got a bit lighter. Still feeling out of it and dizzy I just flush the toilet but one last one came out and splashed the toilet with... BLOOD. I was immediately scared yet in awe with how the blood was swirling with the new water, creating something I've never seen for all the times I've thrown up, this was different. I woke up my bf (still the same church guy we've been dating ALL this time, I Love him) and he insisted on going to the Hospital but I just wanted to sleep and so I did. Thank the Lord once again; for, another day I woke up. It was only day 3 of my 7 day trip of my trip and I was completely BUMMMMED. I knew my health comes first so everyone agreed I shouldn't drink for the rest of the trip. My anxiety rose but my concern ran deeper. Still the party ran out and I was there, sober, and feeling alone in all places...VEGAS.
I can continue with my experience of the last few days but this should be enough.
In Conclusion, loll
I am now back on Maui, tourists are slowly coming back but im taking this time to reallllly reflect on things. Well, I'm trying to. Its almost a week coming up and I do feel great, I'm planning on seeing a Doctor (I should have at vegas to be honest) but I tend to care yet not respect my life as you all can tell. I've been having INTENSE dreams and honestly I picked up a handful of CBD gummies in vegas and its been working wonders with helping me fall asleep and keeping me calm and collected. If you're still reading this God bless you, if you don't believe in God or anything believe in yourself if you want to make a change. Even if its a simple thought to make a difference in your life at least you thought to do it aha.
Until then, you.
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2020.10.24 20:17 Ambitious-Pitch-6658 How should I handle this situation with my employer? Should I sue? Ask for compensation?

Throwaway account for reasons you will understand after reading. Slightly changed details for privacy.
I work in large multinational corporation and after rejecting the advances of my senior manager I have been subjected to bullying and intimidation, culminating in an attempt to hit me at work after I told him I will report him to HR. I have asked him to keep it professional (not in writing) but he kept on making my life hell at work in ways he could easily deny/explain/justify. We had dated, but only shortly because I realized he's very abusive in pretty much every way other than physical. I know I shouldve known better but this was after all my first job out of college and he seemed great (at first of course). He later admitted he "influenced me" to get involved with him, which, looking back, I definitely see.
I ended the relationship after he had stealthed me despite knowing Im not on any other birth control and him being a regular John many times in his life (among other things). He also subsequently told me he's desperate for children...
After he tried to hit me I left the company and intended to quit on the spot but thankfully my (mostly older) fellow coworkers told me to seek legal council. I then informed the company of the fact and they promptly requested a meeting to hear what happened. I wasnt sure what the best course of action was, but my friends convinced me his conduct is a pattern and that it might prevent some other vulnerable young woman from being taken advantage of so I told them the full story: how abusive he was in the relationship and the transgressions he committed on company grounds. The company higher ups were mortified and launched an investigation, after which he was put on paid leave for the remaining time of his contract (few months). This was also not his first transgression within the company and also, within the same department another person has been physically assaulted and called a "fcking faggot" by another manager and had successfully settled with the company without going to court.
I was hoping this is the end of the nightmare but unfortunately it went on. I started to get weird messages on social media which didnt seem so harmful at first, but quickly evolved into blatant threats and harassment to myself and my loved ones. I received hundreds upon hundreds of long horrible messages, some of which were so severe that I slept with a knife out of fear.
My apartment also got broken into and my dog (same dog he abused during the "relations_it") almost died due to a "mysterious" sharp object in her tummy that I am 100% sure didnt come from our apartment (after the threat was made of killing him).
The saddest thing is my close friend was suffering depression and he kept on telling him to kill himself (fully knowing my friend is suicidal to begin with) in various despicable ways and my friend actually snapped and did it. He called me the day before he did it and cried that he cant handle the horrific messages anymore and he jumped in front of a moving truck. I warned his family since I reside in Europe and him in the US but his mom saw it too late.
This all lasted for a couple of months, during which we were both employed (but not working). I notified the company of the harassment and asked for help.
The police got involved, he was arrested and charged for stalking. I dont know if he's going to take the plea deal. The police in my friends country decided it wasnt enough evidence to charge my ex with anything as my friend was suicidal to begin (and my ex is abroad so difficult to trace..) with but I heard the prosecutor in my place of residence doubled his sentence because of this fact.
I was diagnosed with (c)ptsd and severe depression and have been on paid sick leave for a long time. I had only recently come back to work, in an entirely different location and department but now the company is doing everything in their power to get themselves off the hook. When youre sick the company has to keep a written record of what they do to help you recover and they didnt do these things, or well, they did but with a 8 months delay. So they came to me with documents stating these things were done within the deadline which is mandated by the government (if youre late, you have to pay the employee longer and this is what they gave me as a reason). I didnt sign, but I took a copy of these documents home. Furthermore I finally wrote a massive letter to the internal confidential advisor telling them everything what had happened up until that point. Next month I was told my contract wont be extended.
So here are my questions:
Can I sue for damages? Im not entirely sure because its hard to prove that, for example the diagnosis was given because of A incident instead of B (its realistically given because of everything combined) or Im not sure if me being stalked in retaliation not on company grounds has anything do with the company (I reckon they're not responsible for what employees do off company ground). Im also not sure how much of their responsibility this really is. For example, he attempted to physically assault another person before me and the fired the person instead and there were other instances of his abnormal behavior before any of this happened. Personally I do think they are partially responsible for what happened because they choose to push incidents under the carpet for too long but dont know what the law says.
Is it even worth it? Im not in the US (the compensations here are measly in most cases) and given I am sick I am still entitled to a percentage of my salary despite having had my contract finished but that comes with many many hoops I will have to jump trough. Basically the company they assign me to (they are eigenrisicodrager) will force me to get better asap so my original employer doesnt have to pay me anymore and Ive heard horror stories about how this particular company (not UVW) tend to do that.
Can I tell my employer I am not willing to sign the letter where they inform me my contract is not being extended because it also includes a clause of me not being able to sue them anymore? Can I ask them to take it out?
Can I ask my employer to draft an agreement as to what will be said if a reference is asked? Other than this incident (I admit my fault for allowing myself to get dragged into this, but nothing more) my professional reputation has be impeccable and I dont want to give them any wiggle room to further complicate my life.
Can I, instead of involving lawyers, just ask them to cover my medical bills directly?
Im weighting the risks and rewards of my options and the energy and time I will have to extend to get "the best" result. Part of me wants to just put this behind me and take the sick pay but another part wonders if this is a battle worth fighting.If I sue its one and done, but if im on sick pay its probably many smaller situations to handle. Also I dont know what happens if Im sick for 2 years, I heard it means I can never work again, is that true? Id like to return to working life but dont know if Ill be able to quickly enough...
Edit: this all occurred in the Netherlands, but my friend who died was located in the US.
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2020.10.24 20:12 panickinginthecorner This is for all the younger girls in a LDR with an older man

Now, I know, you're probably in your teens and think the world is nice, I want you to know I'm not judging you, I've been in a few situations of the sort, but I am older now. If you're in a relationship with someone over a 3-4 year mark and you're still under 19, I want you to honestly look at every little red flag, and realize them before it's too late.Mind you, most of the things he's done are most likely illegal, depending on where you live.
Does he pressure you into things you don't want to do?Does he blame you for things you haven't done? Does he try to make you feel bad because you don't do what he says? Have you argued an innumerable amount of times about nude photos and other lewd things he wants? If you answered yes to any of these questions, I would suggest you break up.
Boundaries are a major part of a relationship, most older men date younger girls because they can mold them into whoever they want them to be AKA grooming. The amount of times men have tried to take something I didn't want them to have when I was only 14 was more than I can count on my hands and toes. I was lucky, I had people looking out for me and I had great friends that reached out and made me realize when things weren't right.
Nearly everyone wants to be loved or adored, but that should never come at the price of your innocence. You shouldn't have to be threatened because he has photos, or because he might kill himself. Don't let that man force you to be in a relationship, run. I've been threatened with my body that I was blessed with, I've been threatened with death looming over myself, my loved ones, and even with the man child who said he loved me after knowing me for a day.
I'm not saying every person who approaches you that is older is going to be terrible, when you're young, it's easier to manipulate. When you're young, you're willing to stick your neck out to be called beautiful. When you're young, you don't have the years of experience of picking and seeing red flags go out. When you're young, you can't fend for yourself because the pressure of a grown adult can loom over you and crush you.
This is a long post, sorry, I just feel so bad for everyone that gets taken advantage of, I'm not calling out anyone, so if you get offended, you might want to reevaluate the reason you are feeling upset. I will not be arguing in this post with anyone, so don't wait up for a fight.
EDIT: This doesn't just work one way, even though a high percentage of the relationships that have the bad outcomes are a young female and older male, this can work regardless of sexuality and gender. I am only speaking on my experience as a young female gamer, the validity of predators does not disregard any gender (or non binary) or sexuality. It is not right to be preyed upon or emotionally manipulated, regardless of who you are.
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2020.10.24 20:07 writingofrain I feel like "being myself" wouldn't be accepted by society

I've (19F) been struggling with self-identity for a long time now. I think I really know who I am deep inside, but I'm just afraid to be that person because society will reject them. I feel like current culture promotes always moving from one thing to the next and never taking in the moment.
I don't think this is me though. I want to experience things slowly and in-depth. I want to explore libraries, admire the flowers, and play childhood video games over and over again. I don't want to nonchalantly date one person to the next, I want to be with the one person who I love and experience life with them. I don't want to argue about politics, I want to be happy with life and appreciate the peculiarity of existence. I want to be invested in my career and truly put my heart into it instead of settling for something that I'd hate. Spending prolonged time with people other than my boyfriend and closest friends just makes me uncomfortable. I just want to live somewhere relatively quiet in a cozy home with the one I love and be able to fully experience the things that make me happy in life.
I've really tried to hide this side of me though because it seems like I get judged whenever I bring it up. I get told that I'm romanticizing life too much, that I need to grow up and move away from my childhood, that I focus too intently on what I enjoy without experiencing what everyone else is, and that I'm too young to stop dating. Some people assume that I'm just purposefully trying to be different, but that's not true either. This is just who I've always been on the inside. For some time I've been wondering if I'm autistic maybe. Are they right though? Do I need to shape who I am into someone else to better fit society? I'm so confused and I just want to feel accepted.
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2020.10.24 19:57 AliceMadder IJW: Can You Keep a Secret? [2019]

This movie's based on the book of the same name by Sophie Kinsella. I first read the book as a teenager, and now I'm reading it again. I learned there was a movie and that it was on netflix, so I decided to give that a watch as well. Honestly, I'm disappointed. This whole post is just going to be comparing the movie to the book. If you've read Secret Dreamworld of a Shopaholic and then watched Confessions of Shopaholic then it's going to be a similar journey. A switch from the UK to the US, and lots of unnecessary changes that weaken the story and characters. I can't separate my thoughts on the movie from having read the book, and, even with the best will in the world and trying to forget about the book, I think the movie was unsatisfying and lacking.
Firstly, the basic plot (spoiler-free - you'd get this from reading the description or the blurb). The main character has a bad day, has some drinks, then gets on a plane which goes through some terrifying turbulence. The combination of being drunk, miserable, and terrified gets her to suddenly start blurting out all the feelings she's been holding in to the total stranger sitting next to her, who, as she finds out a few days later, turns out to be the owner of the company she works for. More spoilers below.
A big thing in Sophie Kinsella's books is the main character suppressing her feelings to avoid hurting others. I'm not like that at all, I will just say things, so, honestly, I kind of admire these characters for being so thoughtful, even though it does complicate situations. I think that's a big part of the appeal of Emma, the main character, both for us and for Jack Harper, the guy she spills her secrets to. She's not hiding things to be cruel or manipulative, she's hiding them to be thoughtful and considerate, putting others above herself. Unfortunately, a lot of this is just...gone, in the book. We don't meet her family, who are a big part of her motivation, and why she's like this in the first place, having been encouraged, from a very young age, to suppress her own feelings in support of her orphaned cousin. Losing this part of the story makes Emma less understandable and less likeable. We also lose a lot of the secrets, which, okay, they're trying to turn a book into a movie, we're going to lose things, I get it, but I think they cut too much. Speaking of turning a book into a movie, they've gone from London to somewhere in America, but, okay, sure, American production company, much easier and cheaper to cast and make it locally, we don't lose much with that change. And, sure, talking about hipsters and having people text is just a consequence of making the movie in 2019 when the book was published in 2003, that's fine, those are understandable changes. I don't get why the company had to go from Panther to Panda though, or why Emma's business meeting had to go wrong in a different way, the conversation from the book would have worked fine. The dialogue from the book was way better than the new bits they made up for the film.
I don't think any of the main actors were well cast except for the guy playing Jack Harper. He was great. I liked that we could often read his thoughts and feelings off his face, especially since these weren't mentioned in the book, which was written from Emma's point of view. We could guess what he was thinking at certain points based on what he later did or said, but I liked being able to see it. He also looks right, and they even got his height right. Later, he says he always wished he was an inch or two taller, so I really like that they cast a guy who wasn't much taller than the heroine for the role. It was a nice touch. I don't like that they reduced three dates over two weeks into one date over one evening, I think they lost a lot there. One source of conflict between the two is how Jack seems to feel almost entitled to Emma's secrets, despite not wanting to share his own, and we got some of that, but not really enough. Sure, we saw Emma asking him to confide in her but only once, we didn't get the repeated asking and the rebuffing, and we didn't see it build up as the main conflict between them. It was a bit meh. Also, in losing the third date, we lose the scene where Jack reveals a few of Emma's secrets to her family, which was a very satisfying moment in the book. It was a moment of Jack standing up for Emma, of Emma realising that she can express her feelings and ask to be treated better without the world ending, one of the more villainous characters getting her comeuppance in a satisfying way, and Emma's relationship with her parents improving for good. I think we lost too much by cutting that scene. The story is now reduced to only the relationship with Emma and Jack. It's too isolated, and the stakes are too low. Plus, losing her entire family means we lose why Emma cares so much about getting a promotion. The book explicitly states that she's borrowed money from her parents to retrain, having been through four careers in three years, and that her parents constantly compare her to her cousin's success. The movie mentions the four careers in three years, but we don't really understand why Emma's self-esteem is so affected by it, and why her promotion matters so much. It's just sort of implied that everyone wants a promotion, so they don't need to explain why Emma does, which, sure, I guess, capitalism, but I think we lost too much by losing her family. We also lost her secret of buying clothes second-hand and presenting they're new, which, again, speaks to her needing money and feeling the need to impress others, which I think would have been worth including, considering it would have taken, what, 30 seconds? We also lost her grandpa, who was a pivotal character in things turning around at work for Emma. He barely got any screen time in the book, mostly just being a voice on the phone, but I still would have liked to have seen that rather than just have Emma refer to him.
I didn't like the casting for Emma. The actress just didn't seem right, and she didn't seem as likable as Emma in the book. I did like the casting for her flatmates, whose characters and stories were mostly very faithful to the book, with very few dialogue changes, but I don't really get why they have a dog now, since it was barely mentioned. I think they just wanted to have a dog to play with on set and it ended up on camera a few times. I didn't like the casting for Connor either. Connor is Emma's boyfriend at the start of the story, and his whole thing is being perfect. He's supposed to be good-looking and caring and smart, and that's what convinces Emma that she must love him and their relationship must be happy, even if she doesn't feel what she's supposed to feel. She convinces herself that this must be what love is, and the books and movies lie. By casting someone who isn't comically handsome, and giving him more flaws - like having him show his naked butt on screen five times? Apparently that's a character flaw - Emma becomes less understandable. We know she doesn't love him, but now it's even less plausible that she might have convinced herself that she does or should. Plus, I liked that there was nothing wrong with Connor, he was just incompatible with Emma. It's so common to have a love triangle in which one character proves themselves to be fundamentally flawed as an easy resolution that it was refreshing for this love triangle to just be about incompatibility and not one character being secretly awful. I'm sad we lost that. This miscasting of Conner makes Emma much less likeable. Another of Emma's friends became a man, Casey, rather than Katie, and her boss also had his gender flipped, but I'm okay with those changes. I'm a bit sad that some of Katie/Casey's story was cut but it wasn't essential to the story and I don't think we lost much here.
The ending was basically the same, though, again, we lost some of the more satisfying moments. A thing Sophie Kinsella does well is setting up a scene where her heroine ends up in an awkward or embarrassing situation, where one of the mean characters thinks they've won, only to have the mean character have to eat their words. Those scenes are great, but they're all missing.
In short; the movie's pretty meh, just read the book. Maybe watch the scene on the plane to see Jack's face while Emma talks, that's the one advantage the movie has.
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2020.10.24 19:56 Ambitious-Pitch-6658 How should I handle this situation with my employer? Should I sue?

Throwaway account for reasons you will understand after reading. Slightly changed details for privacy.
I work in large multinational corporation and after rejecting the advances of my senior manager I have been subjected to bullying and intimidation, culminating in an attempt to hit me at work after I told him I will report him to HR. I have asked him to keep it professional (not in writing) but he kept on making my life hell at work in ways he could easily deny/explain/justify. We had dated, but only shortly because I realized he's very abusive in pretty much every way other than physical. I know I shouldve known better but this was after all my first job out of college and he seemed great (at first of course). He later admitted he "influenced me" to get involved with him, which, looking back, I definitely see.
I ended the relationship after he had stealthed me despite knowing Im not on any other birth control and him being a regular John many times in his life (among other things). He also subsequently told me he's desperate for children...
After he tried to hit me I left the company and intended to quit on the spot but thankfully my (mostly older) fellow coworkers told me to seek legal council. I then informed the company of the fact and they promptly requested a meeting to hear what happened. I wasnt sure what the best course of action was, but my friends convinced me his conduct is a pattern and that it might prevent some other vulnerable young woman from being taken advantage of so I told them the full story: how abusive he was in the relationship and the transgressions he committed on company grounds. The company higher ups were mortified and launched an investigation, after which he was put on paid leave for the remaining time of his contract (few months). This was also not his first transgression within the company and also, within the same department another person has been physically assaulted and called a "fcking faggot" by another manager and had successfully settled with the company without going to court.
I was hoping this is the end of the nightmare but unfortunately it went on. I started to get weird messages on social media which didnt seem so harmful at first, but quickly evolved into blatant threats and harassment to myself and my loved ones. I received hundreds upon hundreds of long horrible messages, some of which were so severe that I slept with a knife out of fear.
My apartment also got broken into and my dog (same dog he abused during the "relations_it") almost died due to a "mysterious" sharp object in her tummy that I am 100% sure didnt come from our apartment (after the threat was made of killing him).
The saddest thing is my close friend was suffering depression and he kept on telling him to kill himself (fully knowing my friend is suicidal to begin with) in various despicable ways and my friend actually snapped and did it. He called me the day before he did it and cried that he cant handle the horrific messages anymore and he jumped in front of a moving truck. I warned his family since I reside in Europe and him in the US but his mom saw it too late.
This all lasted for a couple of months, during which we were both employed (but not working). I notified the company of the harassment and asked for help.
The police got involved, he was arrested and charged for stalking. I dont know if he's going to take the plea deal. The police in my friends country decided it wasnt enough evidence to charge my ex with anything as my friend was suicidal to begin (and my ex is abroad so difficult to trace..) with but I heard the prosecutor in my place of residence doubled his sentence because of this fact.
I was diagnosed with (c)ptsd and severe depression and have been on paid sick leave for a long time. I had only recently come back to work, in an entirely different location and department but now the company is doing everything in their power to get themselves off the hook. You see, when youre sick the company has to keep a written record of what they do to help you recover and they didnt do these things, or well, they did but with a 8 months delay. So they came to me with documents stating these things were done within the deadline which is mandated by the government (if youre late, you have to pay the employee longer). I didnt sign, but I took a copy of these documents home. Furthermore I finally wrote a massive letter to the internal confidential advisor telling them everything what had happened up until that point. Next month I was told my contract wont be extended.
So here are my questions:
Can I sue for damages? Im not entirely sure because its hard to prove that, for example the diagnosis was given because of A incident instead of B (its realistically given because of everything combined) or Im not sure if me being stalked in retaliation not on company grounds has anything do with the company (I reckon they're not responsible for what employees do off company ground). Im also not sure how much of their responsibility this really is. For example, he attempted to physically assault another person before me and the fired the person instead and there were other instances of his abnormal behavior before any of this happened. Personally I do think they are partially responsible for what happened because they choose to push incidents under the carpet for too long but dont know what the law says.
Is it even worth it? Im not in the US (the compensations here are measly in most cases) and given I am sick I am still entitled to a percentage of my salary despite having had my contract finished but that comes with many many hoops I will have to jump trough. Basically the company they assign me to will force me to get better asap so my original employer doesnt have to pay me anymore and Ive heard horror stories about how they tend to do that.
Can I tell my employer I am not willing to sign the letter where they inform me my contract is not being extended because it also includes a clause of me not being able to sue them anymore? Can I ask them to take it out?
Can I ask my employer to draft an agreement as to what will be said if a reference is asked? Other than this incident (I admit my fault for allowing myself to get dragged into this, but nothing more) my professional reputation has be impeccable and I dont want to give them any wiggle room to further complicate my life.
Can I, instead of involving lawyers, just ask them to cover my medical bills directly?
Im weighting the risks and rewards of my options and the energy and time I will have to extend to get "the best" result. Part of me wants to just put this behind me and take the sick pay but another part wonders if this is a battle worth fighting.If I sue its one and done, but if im on sick pay its probably many smaller situations to handle.
Edit: this all occurred in the Netherlands, but my friend who died was located in the US.
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2020.10.24 19:42 urangry Seeking help and learnings from a failed early-on stage of a relationship

Me(21m) and her(20F) met on Tinder a few weeks ago(she is kind of out of my league IMO, a lot more conventionally attractive than me), We met each other and found that we have a ton in common. After our brief meeting at the gym, she texted me after saying I am really cute. I also found her attractive and scheduled a date for that weekend. We ended up hanging out a couple of times before the date spontaneously and I expressed to her that I am looking for a relationship. She expressed that she is just "lettings things happen as they come". Our first date was very good and we kept hanging out and going on dates for 3 weeks-ish. She was less engaged over text but we were busy so I didn't fault her. She would come over and watch shows with me and hangout. We've made out a couple of times but no sex yet. A few nights ago we were supposed to hang out but she took a late nap and texted me at 1 am and was willing to spend the night at my place. I took it as a hint that she wanted a good time, she seemed hesitant at first and just wanted to sleep but did want me to have sex with her. We did end up have a decent time that night. She said that a relationship is scary and she isn't sure if she wants to be in one after sex and I didn't really say anything. She asked me to drive her back at 5 am and cut things off with me that afternoon. I tried to text her after and hopefully become friends with her(because we do have a ton in common) but she just ghosted me. I know I am still young and a noob but I want the advice of the more experienced people out there. What were some things I did wrong and how can I improve for the future. Also, some advice on how to move on would also be greatly appreciated :)
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2020.10.24 19:41 Ambitious-Pitch-6658 Is there a basis for a lawsuit with my employer? Is it worth pursuing?

Throwaway account for reasons you will understand after reading. Slightly changed details for privacy.
I work in large multinational corporation and after rejecting the advances of my senior manager I have been subjected to bullying and intimidation, culminating in an attempt to hit me at work after I told him I will report him to HR. I have asked him to keep it professional (not in writing) but he kept on making my life hell at work in ways he could easily deny/explain/justify. We had dated, but only shortly because I realized he's very abusive in pretty much every way other than physical. I know I shouldve known better but this was after all my first job out of college and he seemed great (at first of course). He later admitted he "influenced me" to get involved with him, which, looking back, I definitely see.
I ended the relationship after he had stealthed me despite knowing Im not on any other birth control and him being a regular John many times in his life (among other things). He also subsequently told me he's desperate for children...
After he tried to hit me I left the company and intended to quit on the spot but thankfully my (mostly older) fellow coworkers told me to seek legal council. I then informed the company of the fact and they promptly requested a meeting to hear what happened. I wasnt sure what the best course of action was, but my friends convinced me his conduct is a pattern and that it might prevent some other vulnerable young woman from being taken advantage of so I told them the full story: how abusive he was in the relationship and the transgressions he committed on company grounds. The company higher ups were mortified and launched an investigation, after which he was put on paid leave for the remaining time of his contract (few months). This was also not his first transgression within the company and also, within the same department another person has been physically assaulted and called a "fcking faggot" by another manager and had successfully settled with the company without going to court.
I was hoping this is the end of the nightmare but unfortunately it went on. I started to get weird messages on social media which didnt seem so harmful at first, but quickly evolved into blatant threats and harassment to myself and my loved ones. I received hundreds upon hundreds of long horrible messages, some of which were so severe that I slept with a knife out of fear.
My apartment also got broken into and my dog (same dog he abused during the "relations_it") almost died due to a "mysterious" sharp object in her tummy that I am 100% sure didnt come from our apartment (after the threat was made of killing him).
The saddest thing is my close friend was suffering depression and he kept on telling him to kill himself (fully knowing my friend is suicidal to begin with) in various despicable ways and my friend actually snapped and did it. He called me the day before he did it and cried that he cant handle the horrific messages anymore and he jumped in front of a moving truck. I warned his family since I reside in Europe and him in the US but his mom saw it too late.
This all lasted for a couple of months, during which we were both employed (but not working). I notified the company of the harassment and asked for help.
The police got involved, he was arrested and charged for stalking. I dont know if he's going to take the plea deal. The police in my friends country decided it wasnt enough evidence to charge my ex with anything as my friend was suicidal to begin (and my ex is abroad so difficult to trace..) with but I heard the prosecutor in my place of residence doubled his sentence because of this fact.
I was diagnosed with (c)ptsd and severe depression and have been on paid sick leave for a long time. I had only recently come back to work, in an entirely different location and department but now the company is doing everything in their power to get themselves off the hook. You see, when youre sick the company has to keep a written record of what they do to help you recover and they didnt do these things, or well, they did but with a 8 months delay. So they came to me with documents stating these things were done within the deadline which is mandated by the government (if youre late, you have to pay the employee longer). I didnt sign, but I took a copy of these documents home. Furthermore I finally wrote a massive letter to the internal confidential advisor telling them everything what had happened up until that point. Next month I was told my contract wont be extended.
So here are my questions:
Can I sue for damages? Im not entirely sure because its hard to prove that, for example the diagnosis was given because of A incident instead of B (its realistically given because of everything combined) or Im not sure if me being stalked in retaliation not on company grounds has anything do with the company (I reckon they're not responsible for what employees do off company ground). Im also not sure how much of their responsibility this really is. For example, he attempted to physically assault another person before me and the fired the person instead and there were other instances of his abnormal behavior before any of this happened. Personally I do think they are partially responsible for what happened because they choose to push incidents under the carpet for too long but dont know what the law says.
Is it even worth it? Im not in the US (the compensations here are measly in most cases) and given I am sick I am still entitled to a percentage of my salary despite having had my contract finished but that comes with many many hoops I will have to jump trough. Basically the company they assign me to will force me to get better asap so my original employer doesnt have to pay me anymore and Ive heard horror stories about how they tend to do that.
Can I tell my employer I am not willing to sign the letter where they inform me my contract is not being extended because it also includes a clause of me not being able to sue them anymore? Can I ask them to take it out?
Can I ask my employer to draft an agreement as to what will be said if a reference is asked? Other than this incident (I admit my fault for allowing myself to get dragged into this, but nothing more) my professional reputation has be impeccable and I dont want to give them any wiggle room to further complicate my life.
Can I, instead of involving lawyers, just ask them to cover my medical bills directly?
Im weighting the risks and rewards of my options and the energy and time I will have to extend to get "the best" result. Part of me wants to just put this behind me and take the sick pay but another part wonders if this is a battle worth fighting.
Edit: this all occurred in the Netherlands, but my friend who died was located in the US.
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